Moving in together when you’re young can feel like a big stepping stone in a relationship; it can be thrilling and feel like the best decision of your life to bring you guys closer together. It also feels like a terrifying experience.
If you do plan on moving in with your partner young, here are things to consider and a couple of words from people who have walked the steps so you can run when the time comes.
Teachers from Arcata High who have moved in with their partners for 1-12 months have given advice and shared their experiences. John Kelly, Northern Humboldt School’s nurse, said that their biggest challenge was “not missing each other anymore,” and Seanessy Gavin, a teacher at Aracta High school claimed the same thing. “Bad breath and messy hair in the morning, you see the real person.”
Google also agrees with Gavin’s claim, stating that you sometimes only see a side of the person that they let you see and try to hide small flaws.
Owen Moore, a history Teacher at Arcata High School, said that figuring out who did what chores was the biggest problem he faced. “I get the impression a lot of young people don’t have responsibility around the house,” he stated. “It might be a shock to them and their partners that if they don’t do these things, they won’t get done.
Google claims that people who move in with a partner at a young age are more likely to have a higher risk of instability in their relationship. But not all things are bad when it comes to moving in at a young age. These 4 teachers all claimed to have no regrets in there desicion and 3-4 are still with the same partner today!
Aliyah Cline, Arcata High Life Skills teacher, said, “Moving in together definitely brought us closer.” Although they still had tough times, they communicated through it. Clines advises, “It’s important not to attach your entire identity to the person you’re with. Take time to learn who you are outside of the relationship.”
