Arcata High lovers in distress anonymously submitted their romantic trials and tribulations. As a specialist in this field I decided to advise to the best of my ability.
“There not enough loyal bad b*tches in this economy gang, stay up.”
Dear Reader,
I understand the very real struggle of finding loyal people to date, especially in this economy. Many people nowadays treat dating as a hobby or a pastime, and not as a way to honor and value a connection between two people. However, I think your struggle may be a call from inside the house. When you hold this perspective that most women aren’t loyal, you’re looking at all potential suitors with a negative view, which hinders your ability to form a connection. Take a good look at yourself. What do you look for in a partner? How do you treat potential partners? Maybe you’ll find that when you connect with the right person, with the right attitude, things will look up.
How do I keep my bum, good-for-nothing, ex out of my DMs?
Dear Reader,
An obsessive ex-partner is a common struggle. The first step would be to clearly communicate your feelings. Explain in simple terms that you wish to cease all contact. And that they must respect your decision. The next step would be to block them. If somehow they’re still contacting you, I’d tell their friends. Personally, if I found out my homie was still harassing their ex, I’d clown on them hard. If this harassment becomes intense or continues, report it to a trusted adult.
My friends have set me up with a few guys in the past, but it has never worked out because the guys have always either ignored me, found me boring, or disliked me for some reason.
Dear Reader,
When looking for love, you might find you have a much higher success rate when you meet people naturally. If you’re relying on your friends to set you up, you don’t know if you have anything in common. Instead, embrace yourself, pursue your hobbies and interests, while being open to connection and meeting new people. This way, whether you are approaching someone or you’re being approached, you both automatically have something in common. When you go about your day-to-day with the expectation of finding love, you get let down.
What is a good way to make a first impression on a boy and keep them interested?
Dear Reader,
A first impression is a foundational part of building a relationship, but oftentimes, first impressions are wrong. Many people automatically make assumptions based on appearance, body language, or other factors. Oftentimes, you come to learn these assumptions are false, and the person you’ve met isn’t who you thought they were. What I’m trying to say here is that a first impression is not a final determining factor; you get to know someone gradually, not all at once. For keeping them interested, that’s not something you can control. Interest in another person lies within the individual.
How do you talk to someone?
Dear Reader,
Using your mouth, move your tongue and vocal cords to make sounds that form words. Talking to someone isn’t complicated unless you’re overthinking it. For real, though. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward. Try reaching out about shared interests, or find a common base between yourself and the subject of your conversation to start a discussion with. Be yourself, and try to relax. Use those vocal cords.
I only like the guys that don’t want me, but the guys that want me, I don’t like
Dear Reader,
How do you know the ones you want don’t want you back? Unless you’ve expressed your feelings, you don’t. Don’t accept affection out of pity – meaning: don’t go out with guys if you don’t like them. Be authentic and take steps to pursue one of these guys that you like. If they turn you down or aren’t interested, that’s their loss. If you hold out and keep searching for a genuine connection, you’ll find one.
I’m getting ghosted by a boy I just hung out with
Dear Reader,
Ghosting has become our generation’s universal sign to tell someone you aren’t interested without using words and avoiding an uncomfortable conversation. The fact is, if they wanted to contact you, they would. Take this as a saving grace, if they aren’t mature enough to express their feelings or lack thereof in words, they probably wouldn’t be the best communicator in a relationship.
