Are situationships a part of the norms now? According to the Urban Dictionary, their definition of a situationship is “When one or two people take part in a relationship, but out of fear of making things serious or messy, do not label it, leading to said relationship, ironically, becoming more serious and messier. Or a relationship that has no label on it…like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.”
Situationships are just a time filler for when people don’t want to commit to a relationship but still want its benefits. Doing relationship things while in a situationship gives false hope that it will ever be anything more than a situationship.
“Situationships emerge out of boredom and are useless,” Malia Wolven, a senior, said.
It is hard for people to decide what they want from the other person if they want to be in a relationship or just want someone they can have fun with no label or commitment. “People decide if it’s a situationship or relationship when they have a conversation with the other person to make it official,” Alex Greenway, a senior at Arcata, said. Most of the time one person in the situationship expects to move on to the next level and the other person has no higher expectations for that situationship.
How exclusive are situationships? When do you decide you’re exclusive with the other person? These are questions that people ask while in situationships and feel confused and lost.
“When you’re talking to someone but you guys can’t talk to anyone else, so it’s dumb,” Mia Cueto, a junior, said.
“There is a grey area of exclusivity based on the opportunity you’re given with a different person and the state of mind you’re in,” Arlo Clow, a senior, said. Many people have a different perspective of how exclusive you are in a situationship but many don’t define it and are wondering during their non-commited relationship.
People are now looking at getting into situationships rather than relationships. Having high expectations to find their high school sweetheart has fallen and people no longer have hope for true love. They say love is dead and it’s not how it used to be. So are situationships just casual?
