Are relationships really for the nonchalant? I’m sure we’re all tired of wondering. Well if a relationship is what you want, I’d look somewhere else. Everyone knows nonchalant guys are laid back. They don’t care to call, text, or make plans. So do these guys care about being in a relationship at all? Well, some say these guys just aren’t ready to put full effort into something like a relationship, but others could say differently. It’s hard to tell, but what’s for certain is these guys aren’t what girls want.
There was a common theme of how they felt towards these boys. Senior Marci Davis said, “They’re the people who seem good at first and then are not that great because they don’t show any affection.”
A guy who’s nonchalant might seem good at first, maybe they’re funny or gets along with your friends. But showing affection definitely isn’t their strong suit. Being affectionate could make them seem more vulnerable, or show that they care. Some girls think that being nonchalant could just be a cover-up to seem cool.
“They could be embarrassed if it seems like they care too much, or seem desperate,” senior Lucy Hansen said. This explains why they might seem so closed off to showing how they feel. Yet a lot of girls said that they want guys to show how they feel.
Girls, who have dated nonchalant guys, were left confused, not knowing how these guys felt towards them or what they wanted. Guys aren’t really known for talking about their feelings, but being this way has come from generations of unrealistic expectations of masculinity. Especially now, being nonchalant is very common. Media, peers, and family affect how they should show emotions.
Nonchalant guys often believe that it may be more convenient to stay single and talk to different girls. But once you and a guy start talking, it wouldn’t be surprising if you wonder what it might mean.
“I was confused if we were dating or not, we went on dates. But it didn’t really go anywhere,” sophomore Kloe Mayer said. If you somehow do end up in a relationship with someone nonchalant, as you might know, it’s not for the weak. Especially if you might feel like you care “too much,” well anything might seem too much in comparison to nothing.
When being with someone like this, you can’t really expect them to change. You can ask and see if they want to put in the effort to show that they care, but you can’t force them to. You can’t make them call you back, or text you in the morning. You can’t really expect more than what they show you.
You can’t expect them to care about you when they never showed that they did. And in the end, all that it really comes down to is what type of person you want to be with. Do you want someone who doesn’t show they care? Are nonchalant guys really your type?
